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Curvy The post is missing!  We hide because society does not accept us and we fear their ridicule! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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Yeah but if it all is a lie...then how good of a person are they? You can't base a relationship on a house of cards. Your literally stealing someonelse identity and living a double life..
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Why do they even have shows like that? I honestly believe that every"pot has a lid" concept. It all boils down to who and what you are. I have seen obese "subs" and men adore them, being untrue to oneself in order to gain acceptance is a no no for me, I find it way to tiresome......
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Curvy its hard wired into people- especially MEN react to visual stimuli .... Having said that... Beauty is in the eye of the beholder of course!!! LOOKS are shallow but LOOKS are important nevertheless its the way of the world for better or worse... 
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Starting communication with fake pics and profiles is just hard to overcome for me... If, or when I found out, that trust would be difficult for me to overcome... I have no problem taking time to chat with a Dom without seeing their pics... Of course within a reasonable time I do want to see a pic... But in the beginning I would rather see no pics, than fake pics... But each to their own.. ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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No Sir I was not correcting you ... BTW regarding one of your posts- KILTS are very manly and not at all like the attire that I wear .... For example = Sean Connery often wore a KILT and NOBODY can accuse Sir Sean of not being MANLY 
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9/14/2021 8:12 am |
Life has a way of creating insecurities. For some those are more deeply ingrained than with others. I've watched the show too, and I've seen varying reasons as why they do it. Some it's a form of payback, others are ashamed of who they are. I don't hide who I am or what I look like but I also don't broadcast it either. I've been ridiculed and looked down on for my weight, I'm naturally a small person, my whole life. I wouldn't judge someone for using a picture that isn't them, but I also wouldn't engage in conversations with a person that hides behind that and isn't actively working to accept who they are. 
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Sir you are very welcome- and it is always a pleasure speaking with a handsome intelligent man such as yourself- so please have a nice day for me!!! 
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Yeah, I always say, so much fun can be had if people were able to relax and come hang out on cam, especially during these covid times. However, what an awesome topic, I love that show and quite educating to help keep you from getting scammed.
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Wow thought provoking my friend. In my case because of my own background , I started to look for honesty and love. I didn't and don't care about looks race etc. I wanted an honest man who would love me. I found him. I don't watch shows like that I find them disturbing to me. In the end I think people who have been lied to on it aren't so upset with how the person may look as they are about the lie itself. The lie brings out the anger of feeling betrayed therefore the easy exit excuse of sorry you look nothing like who you said you were. I am so very grateful that through honesty of who I was and who I am now led me to my Sir and marriage.
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To me, it was always the reverse thing. I am strange like that. I never was interested in what society calls "beautiful" - or- handsome, in men. I was always first interested in their story, what made them, them. in what lays behind the looks... or not so much looks.... How they looked? was always of secondary importance. So looks? who cares?Iit is the personality that counts for me. I have scars in my face, although they are a bit vague now, i know how people react on the scars first and the person later.... I know how that feels. But, that is on them, not on me. it is what is part of my background; i survived it all! Also, i can only be mé, because if i try to be some one else, or behave differently than i am, on a daily basis, they will know... sooner or later, they will find out... And, more important I will know! great topic, thank your very much!
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And what jenny says! absolutely! redicule, expel, push out, make you lose your job, your family, custody over your children, your house, friends, etc.... There is a lot of pain, in make believe, for your own safety...... from the outside world.... The price is very big, sometimes.....
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I know nothing... love it!!!
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Yet i am having the most fun!!!... Go Figure
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CurvySubBBw: What a fantastic subject, and thanks to everyone who's chimed in, this is a fantastic discussion. I agree that this is what a "community" should look like, and behave like. An actual exchange of ideas, and accept and understand that a certain part of our own judgement is hard wired, and being able to openly say so. After all, we all have the right to make our own choices. I think that the reason the normal reaction to deception is repulsion - and I do think it's normal by the way - is that it forces us to question the validity of all of our own belief systems. In term of pure behavioral psychology, our brain is constantly comparing our "perception" of the outside world to an internal map that our brain calls normal. When we expect a given input - visual appearance - and associate that input to desirable mate, the input and psychological map validate the criteria and result. In terms of behaviour, that reinforces the neural pathway and the cycle continues. Once a deception has been revealed it invalidates the cycle. That means either our internal map or the criteria are incorrect. That is an assault on your internal value map, which is connected to every other internal value map. Now you're faced with the paradox that you've been wrong all along, and other than appearance they are a great person, but wait, now the system map that made you think they were a great person is also no longer valid because they have been lying to you. Taken to extreme limits this is the basis for PTSD or Moral Injury that most veterans experience. They have been exposed to conditions - not always during combat - that have invalidated so many of the internal maps of their psychological belief construct, that their mental faculty begins to shut down or over load. The problem I have with the "catfish philosophy" is that it's based on their belief that they should be allowed to disconnect their behaviour - intentional deception - from the consequences - rejection, obviously because that serves their purpose. All of the claims that they are the same person inside is both true and a lie at the same time, because what they are inside is a liar .. which is true . Once the basis of truth - appearance - collapses, then everything that was built upon that premise is instantly invalidated as well.
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9/30/2021 9:17 am |
I love big curvy ladies. To me it just means there is more to love. I love everything from big breasts to possible milk. I nice big pussy to eat and bigger ass to fuck
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I've had my meaty, lumpy, large face splashed on here for years. I figure everyone has to know it's really me because, honestly, if I was going to hide behind a fake face it wouldn't be one that looks like this. I think everyone says appearances don't matter because it sounds like something a nice, good person would say. But as others have articulated better than I, looks do matter for many reasons other than possibly shallow ones. Like Rosaenaluin, I too have scars on my face and neck, shoulder and arm all down my left side. I figure if someone from here can be attracted to me even with my scars and my William Shatner-esque face...then it's all good from there. If I had started with a fake picture with the intention of really meeting people in person..I'd have to reveal myself eventually and ruin any chance I had of real connections. The odds are stacked against submissive males finding a match here enough already without me fucking up further. I'm glad I did use my genuine mug too. I've met a handful of people from here in person over the last 16 years...something I wouldn't have done if I was using a fake set of photos. "In a time of universal deceit - telling the truth is a revolutionary act." ---George Orwell
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It begins in school with peer groups. Too many intelligent people pretending to be dumb in order to have "friends"
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love love love this subject and everyone point of view.
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