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Free will and human rights as a submissive. article in comments |
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Most Dominants want their submissive to give up their free will. Some want them to give up their human rights. But in the BDSM world, this is really just an illusion, dependent on the commitment of the submissive to the Dominant. Legally, the submissive STILL has free will and human rights when in a dynamic. That is why consent and nonconsent are so important to remember. When you consent to submit to a Dominant free will is still something that a submissive deals with constantly. With each command of the Dominant, the submissive freely chooses to submit to the command or not. It is their commitment to the Dominant that factors into how well they will submit. But even that commitment, is by choice of free will Any Dominant that tries to “train” the free will out of a submissive is actually not being Dominant, but domineering and abusive, just like an abusive husband that tries to make a wife so dependent on him that the wife has no choice but to stay, no matter what the abuse she takes. Every submissive has human rights, even in a BDSM dynamic. The submissive can consent to anything they choose through free will. But legally, the human rights we all have can be applied to make certain things illegal for the Dominant to do to a submissive, even with consent. It also is the reason why revoking consent is the submissive’s right to do at any time for any reason. Again, the commitment to the Dominant and the dynamic is what keeps a submissive from doing whatever they please. But commitment alone is no reason to remain in an abusive dynamic or with an abusive Dominant. Submissives need to know the difference between commitment and free will. © 6/3/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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Submissive' Bill of Rights Submissive' Bill of Rights :for starters a submissive is not a slave.... Submissives Bill of Rights You have the right to be treated with respect. Not do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive" describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being You have the right to respect yourself as well. You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness. You have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there can never be true surrender. You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your emotions and feelings come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else's. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you are and suppressing them will bring unhappiness later. You have the right to express your negative feelings. Being submissive does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. Your concerns are real and you have every right to express them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don't like something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable. You have the right to say NO. Being submissive does not take away your right to have dislikes or negative feelings about things. If something is happening or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to, it's your duty to speak up. Remember, failing to communicate the word NO is the same as saying YES. You have the right to expect happiness in life. Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a life of despair. Your submission should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then something is wrong. You have the right to have input in a relationship. You are an active partner in any relationship you enter and have every right to contribute to it. You are submissive, not passive. A relationship that doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships. You have the right to belong. Being submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering their submissive nature that they felt as through they "belonged" for the first time in their lives. You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong to the One. It's in that relationship you should find the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last. You have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone who tells you that love doesn't fit into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for less. You have the right to be healthy. Health involves your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to you to make sure those lines are not crossed. Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation but you are the one who has to make them aware before they can help. You have the right to practice safe sex. Not is this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others you may come into contact with a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has your best interests at heart.
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I see uncommon1 deleted mine and your replies on his stolen blog post of yours. He likes to give it but has no idea of how to take it.   
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Since uncommon1 deleted mine and your last reply on his stolen blog topic of yours I posted to his blog again which he will delete.....but I will paste it here too. To uncommon1...... I guess the fires to hot for you to keep your feet to it....after stealing the bog post of rondiri,Free will and human rights as a submissive, which is normal for you.....rondiri and I both posted on your stolen blog....I see you deleted them. You are one more extreme narcissist.....not only do you have to have your own stolen blog to view like a mirror but you delete any input from others which is just what a narcissist does not want.....anyone else's opinion....
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Randiri, a good text that summarizes clearly - without writing a thesis - that the agreement or slave contract is not binding legally for both involved and that it all comes down to the good will of both participants. That's why a contract comes handy into place when Master/Dom+slave/sub take the time to agree on a framework of rules and protocols to minimize the (ab)use of the sub/slave and to avoid that the relationship gets out of hand mostly to the detriment of the submissive. So communication, as we all know, is of the essence + knowledge about the Bdsm-lifestyle/dynamics. Thanks for your 'always' rich made or drafted texts/contributions. Dom Julius
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randiri, in the text: But legally, the human rights we all have can be applied to make certain things illegal for the Dominant to do to a submissive, even with consent. Apart from assisted suicide and abortion in some countries, what else do you have in mind? Greetz, Dom J.
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BlueAngel, A very good text and additional information that I like to read very much so. Extremely valuable contributions and usable for anybody, be it vanilla or a D/s/M dynamic. Thanks sub female BAngel! Greetz, Dom J.
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As pointed out by aliljaded, on her blog, the sub has all the power with the ability to say NO
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Guess that depends on the relationship and where it is heading... Deep blue, smooth sailing...Or on the rocks
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I see uncommon1 deleted mine and your replies on his stolen blog post of yours. He likes to give it but has no idea of how to take it. 
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