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rosaenaluin 65F
9906 posts
12/30/2022 10:59 am
I am banned!


LOL
I am banned from a certain group, on Fet.
Because i spook my mind, about all the 50 shades fckrs!

Who, without any background knowledge, about the responsibilities, rights and all that, keep calling themself dominants....
Destroying a lot of women.

Claiming, to be a "good"/ real/ perfect!!! submissive you have to let yourself be fkced from date one!

Gosh, what a a no-nos.
So, as useal, i was attacked by the mob!
It was sooo predictable, every time i react on some sort of item
HUp, there they are, in packs!!
trying to insult me,
I am banned for 'playing on the man'- those who attacked me, can still continue their attack
are not banned!
Strange, dont you think!>?
It is such an incestious gang!
I really find them more and more disgusting, not even aware of their own behaviour.

What i did write was, they all fck each other and call it sm , or even worst, calling it having a d/s.
That was all i said.
That is my experience on that site. with those socalled dominants......

within 2-3 messages, they start to talk about kinks, fetishes, sex
Not one question, about who you are, what you do, in daily life,nothing.
They skip the wole get to know each other-as a person.
Jump right in to the sex games.

Thát is not how a dominant behaves.

NOT even a decent introduction, why they think, i might be interested in them?
Nothing!
or why i think, i am submissive?
NOTHING.

So, peace and quietness, i love it!

rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/30/2022 11:03 am

It was a matter of time, to happen, one day..


drmgirl622 68F  
25880 posts
12/30/2022 11:08 am

I'm sure you won't miss them.....


Kitcatshadow1 57F
507 posts
12/30/2022 11:20 am

Rosa, I have given up taking on the ignorant, it is a waste of time hun. But sometimes, one does find a jewel amongst the rough stones. Do not even waste your time and energy on those who have no clue, and you know that they stand out like sore thumbs.


BDSMbedroomslave 46T
104 posts
12/30/2022 11:21 am

Internet trolls are everywhere. I call the Fanboys, that really really irritates them.

The problem is, they have learned How to abuse others without incurring the wrath of any Moderator. They use perfect language and their goal is to irritate and make the person they're targetting make the mistake of using improper language to react with and that is what gets the victim banned.

Your not allowed an opinion that differs from theirs, for example computer gaming forums are overrun by them, criticize their favorite game or its developer and they're all over you in a flash, they report your posts, have them removed by Moderators, who remove posts without even bothering to check if it is offensive or not.

I imagine the same sort of strategies are in place on other forums, such as Fetlife, the trick is to not let them get to you in that you use foul and abusive language to react to their bullshit, then they report you for that language, and the Moderators see you as the perpetrator, not the victim.

I had a similar issue here on Alt when someone posted a advice line, and I responded, on to have my post revoked because I apparently mentioned a 'banned topic'. A banned topic they (the admin) are unwilling to say what topic it was. However what really gets me for this site in particular, is the many number of idiots who can post bullshit about none BDSM/Kink/Fetish things, and 'its allowed'

Fetlife is a waste of time anyway, your not missing anything


TinmanSn 100M
74 posts
12/30/2022 11:35 am

Yes Rosa I know what you mean.

A few years ago I stumbled up a room where an 18 year old “woman” in Los Angeles was finalizing a visit to a dominant in Calgary. I tried to warn her of the dangers but found myself being attacked by the people in the room.

To this day I wonder if her body was found in a ditch somewhere.


uncommon1 66M  
1318 posts
12/30/2022 11:56 am

When you are banned
for speaking your mind,
don't change your mind,
change who you take time
to express yourself to.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
12/30/2022 12:25 pm

    Quoting Kitcatshadow1:
    Rosa, I have given up taking on the ignorant, it is a waste of time hun. But sometimes, one does find a jewel amongst the rough stones. Do not even waste your time and energy on those who have no clue, and you know that they stand out like sore thumbs.
I am of the same opinion as KitKat......................the sorts are a waste of time. Most member chat rooms are run and controlled by self servicing asshats. I simply do not do chat rooms, even the public one, A few complaints and your banned, Alt does not verify these complaints. They are mostly from folks who want to control a chat room to their own view points. So I simply don't waste my time in any of them.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/30/2022 12:44 pm

DD,
The topic starter was a woman, not wanting sex, due to yought trauma, and wanting a D/s, power/authority stransfer dynamic....

So, i gave her some advise, saying the F8ck word.... that is not a banned word, for as far as i know....
They use far worst words on Fet, for women.....

Fetlife, here, on Alt, it is all the same, Fckers making the rules, dangerous!!

The topic starter was very happy with my advise and then all hell broke lose.....
Warning her for the F-ers. ignore and block, was my advice.
warning her for all kind of dangers from those losers!


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/30/2022 12:52 pm

drmgirl
no, i dont, most of the time, i dont react at all.

But this was a young woman, being harrassed to get her f8ckked by all those loser vanillas.
So, i have her some sound advise, telling her, they all want to F, but dont know one thing about the emotional, psychological effects of a D/s and or the abuse of those wankers!
And or their responsiibility, then all hell brake lose! whahahah!
They are sooo predictable!


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/30/2022 12:56 pm

Kitkat,
I understand, most of the time i dont react on that 'advice line'.....
The stupidity they vomit out, is really horrible.
Dangerous too.
I dont mingle with those.

That is a totall lost cause.!

This was a new woman, who just wanted to know, if f8cking was standard, while she wanted to build a D/s dynamic, not sex contacts...
The ban is only for 3 days, as if i care!! LOL

i did write to her profile, hope i could give her some sound advice


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/30/2022 12:59 pm

bdsmbedroomslave,
Yes, i understand, i did not know it was soo extreme!! \
Most of the time, i stay far a way from the Dutch part of fet, it is all about swinging, predator behaviour, and sometimes, almost violence against woman....
all in the name of the game! amp;


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/30/2022 1:02 pm

Tinman,
that is one horrible story.
Yes i know of such stories overhere too;
a man, going to a hotel room, to visit his "domina", and got attacked by the boyfriend of this "domina"was almost left for death, stole his keys, car, everything!!
it was horrible, that man was sooo afraid, after that.


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/30/2022 1:08 pm

DD,
chatrooms, i dont visit them, for a long time now.
It is years ago, the last time i went there.
Got attacked there too, because i said, i believe this is a bdsm/ lifestylle chat room?
Iam not at all interested in talking about "your"flower arrangements, i can talk with my neighbor abour that!
Wrong! hahahah


meltwill2 72M  
3726 posts
12/30/2022 1:34 pm

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    It was a matter of time, to happen, one day..
Like my favorite movie quote....with a small amount of artistic expression " Fuckum. They's trash."


bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4023 posts
12/30/2022 3:09 pm

the first action of any fake pretender is to cut ties w anybody that opposes threatens & outs them...for they must maintain the illusion!


subaline 27F
23 posts
12/30/2022 4:13 pm

I'm sometimes even wondering how many of them would really meet. But am not quite crazy enough to try it out.


Mssis 48F

12/30/2022 5:05 pm

I am laughing my azz off at this!

YOU HAVE ARRIVED ! SERIOUSLY.


In my other life , way back then, I too was a blogger. In fact, number one for a very time (please don't take it as bragging).
and why? because, dammit I spoke my mind, i said what I thought outloud.
Now, back then, all you would have to do is complain to alt......

look what she said , blah blah blah.....
and then alt would ban me. Then I would have to go alt court where they would talk to me... blah blah blah....
and then reinstated.

I was banned at least 12 times, no lie..... and heaven forbid those people were the heads of groups.... BANNED.

BE PROUD, BE SO VERY PROUD !!!!! XXOOX


_hazine_ 43F  
79 posts
12/30/2022 6:23 pm

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    DD,
    chatrooms, i dont visit them, for a long time now.
    It is years ago, the last time i went there.
    Got attacked there too, because i said, i believe this is a bdsm/ lifestylle chat room?
    Iam not at all interested in talking about "your"flower arrangements, i can talk with my neighbor abour that!
    Wrong! hahahah
lol sounds like the Lobby.

* Gorean ideals are like Total Power Exchanges. He is master and I am slave. *


NoNonsense_Dom 70M  
1517 posts
12/30/2022 9:00 pm

Rosa there are so many pretend dominants in this lifestyle, and it is because of those numbers that newbies think that they are the normal. Newbies need to be educated to know a real dominant will not make demands, will take the time to get to know you as a person first before and play occurs. They will want to know you as well or even better than you know yourself (as a sub), because how else are they to know what it is you desire and crave for fulfillment. During this get to know process, they will hold themselves a little aloof but will be prepared to explain, in order for a sub to understand the aspects of play. As a sub, you will be treated with respect and manners during this phase. We all know that this life has some dangers to it, and those dangers can be magnified if you don't follow the initial Safe - Sane - & Consensual aspects of this life.

To me, these Pretenders should also be included with the Sharks & Rogues that inhabit this lifestyle, the ones who are only out for naive fresh meat that they can feast upon and abuse. These bastards give true dominants a bad name.

Rosa, don't ever give up on calling out the bad behaviour and explaining about the Pretenders/Rogues & Sharks that Newbies might/will encounter. It might just save someone's life.


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/31/2022 2:06 am

NoNonsense_Dom,

I am soo happy and grateful, you write this, thank you.

THIS, is how i, deep inside know, dominants will behave, and how that will have a very posiitive effect on my way of reacting, of feeling too...

Not those violaters of any human right, with a lot of women issues too.
They are soo dangerous for the fresh girls/women and men too.
That is why i reacted on the topic starter, i did read some of the other reactions, it was all very political correct... bleagh..
..
All about you just have to do, what feels right, bla, bla, bla, But if "you" are fresh, new, you dont know thát, all that well
And, then those predators jump in, telling those fresh persons, you have to do this or that, otherwise you are not a REAL/PERFECT- what ever, submissive
Manipulating pigs!

Did read some of the profiles, who did answered to this young woman.
Then i had enough of it, and spoke my mind
I dont sugarcoat, so they had something else coming! Hahaha

Thank you.
Sometimes this feels almost like calling, to point those fakers out.
To warn those fresh people for those sharks.


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/31/2022 2:15 am

Mssis,
Great! i could make you laugh!!
That made me laugh, too!
I really dont think very highly of the majority of the boys and girls on FET.

Their behaviour is soo terrible predictable. it is a joke! They are a joke!
Taking themselfs soo very, very serious, but lack any basic bdsm and or D/s knowledge, or just human respect....

You cant have a decent conversation about something like red flags, hard limits, the responsibility of the submissive and or the responsibility of the dominant.

The first thing they do, is shouting: THEY ARE THE DOMINANT, AND I SHOULD SHUT UP.
by that time in the conversation i am almost laughing my ass off!!
losers/ vanillas.
I dont have those conversations anymore, because one look at their profiles says it all.
Ignore and block!


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/31/2022 2:20 am

uncommon
That is absolutely wright!
Then there have to bé people around to have such a conversation with.
in all those years, on here, and elsewhere, i did not meet one person, who i could have such a decent, informative, open conversation with.

They all jump right into "their role" and thats it.
No human contact possible.
I tlalk to an self proclaimed image, not a real person, with doubts, questions, nothing !
So?
You tell me, where to find such an adult?


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/31/2022 2:21 am

bdsmd,
Ooh, i know! Not a chance in the world, that is going to happen!


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/31/2022 2:29 am

subaline,

Ooh, i can tell you, they all want to meet, desperately! even
Only by meeting those, they are like a balloon, who just as fast deflate as they tried to keep putting air into them....
Because they "think" submissive = meak, stupid. doormat...fckable meat.

And then they meet me! LOL

I am not that easily impressed, by anyone, so i see them walking towards me, and i already know; just an othe loser/vanilla, and that shows in my whole demeanor! = not impressed.

And i see them sink into nothing....
Have that happen, soo many times!
Someone should have filmed it! LOL

They become afraid of me, even.


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
12/31/2022 2:37 am

hazine,
Thank you.
I know not enough about the Gorean ways.

I want just a person, a real person to person contact, be sincire, be honest, show some human behaviour, with all your weaknesses, and powers....

Bé dominant - dont play some sort role, you "think" will lure the "females" into your empty nest... abuse.... what ever.... role sex play games.


whipkeith4 68M

12/31/2022 3:32 am

I have met a few dominants, but i only will play with someone if we go have a coffee or shoot some pool, some vanilla activity first. I want to know who they are and hopefully they want to know who i am. When they just tell me to be some where, naked, and then they want to walk in and just abuse you, i find a bit off. How do i know if i think they are a bit trusting? Ya i just go by my rules, i may be pretty open to a number of things, but i would like to have some form of safety hehehehe


rondiri 64M
11035 posts
12/31/2022 9:18 am

I get suspended from FB groups constantly and have decided Fet is just a bunch of cliques, you either agree with, or feel their wrath.


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
1/1/2023 2:40 am

whipkeith,
Yes, every one acts by their own rules, if that makes them feel safe.
As long you are safe, that is good.


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
1/1/2023 2:46 am

rondiri,

I found some people, who are into what i am into... at least, i think so...
But they are a very, very small minority...
The rest is all swingers, sex clubs play act folks!

Yes, it is all over like highschool behaviour, the, playing at, being hot horny bitches, make the rules, and if you dont want to act their way, you are out
The "hot" men, behave the same!
Disgusting!


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
1/1/2023 10:08 pm

subaline,
You know, I just was curious how those few men, i did meet, would manage the situation.
All did not have a clue, how to behave toward me. ( as an adult/ human being)
Just, totally lost, and, ofcourse blame me, of their lack of....
Because i did not "submit" on the spot, to them.


rydermantel 68M
23762 posts
1/4/2023 6:50 am

Concerning the 50 shades movies. They really sucked. Typical Hollywood bullshit. I am just speaking my mind.


rydermantel 68M
23762 posts
1/4/2023 6:53 am

    Quoting rondiri:
    I get suspended from FB groups constantly and have decided Fet is just a bunch of cliques, you either agree with, or feel their wrath.
You bend with the breeze or you break. But if you are your own person, do you really care?


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
1/4/2023 7:57 am

ryder,

When you dont. want to belong to the swingers/ f8cks/ player groups....
There is not much left, on The Dutch part of Fet.
Only the English part has real good groups,where you can learn and educate yourself.
Ask the questions, about the powerdynamic & maybe some inner struggle...?
There are real.good MASTERS, who give real good advice, are stable personalities.

When you dont want to f8ck around - calling -that- sm, or, worst "having a d/s"...
It is high school behaviour allover, again. Disgusting, calling themselfs dominants/masters/ sir and god nows what else...
it is just dangerous!!


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
1/4/2023 8:04 am

whipkeith,
A very smart move.
I always asked for a copy of their drivers license, or home adress...
The players always got very angry, how didi dear to ask... such things...
When i told them, it is the only way, for me, to know i will be safe, they most of the time exploded...
How dare i?
I -just- had to trust them, blind, Yeah! Sure! in your wet dreams , maybe??
8
There are sooo many mental cases here... shudders.


socalmale1 72M
85 posts
1/5/2023 11:55 am

GETTING KICKED OUT CAN BE A BLESSING!


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
1/6/2023 3:07 am

socialmale,
hahahah, yes it was very refreshing!

Still trying to find my way, on FETLIFE, though.....


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
1/6/2023 3:11 am

ryder,
That 50 shades violence against women, is a very big disgrace!

That woman writer should be sued, because due to her "wrtiting" that trash, a lot of women are attacked, damaged/ physical end mentally, for life, in their way of thinking about their own sexuality.


Fortifiedman001 33M
16 posts
1/14/2023 10:49 pm

I would even worry bout it


rydermantel 68M
23762 posts
1/22/2023 7:24 pm

Like a snowball in July.



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