wulfmaster is a douchnozzle
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Posted:Dec 5, 2024 8:30 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2024 9:58 pm 91 Views
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Don't be this guy! An ignorant, uninformed, message showing what a douchnozzle looks like. Why do these newbs message experienced players with laughable bullshit like this? Tell me you have no idea how BDSM works, without telling me you have no idea how BDSM works LOL!! This idiot was not even clever enough to read my profile. Not sure why he humiliates himself like this, but here we are!
wulfmaster: Repeat,women should be trained to serve,trained,used,owned. Completely Dominated9:17 AM
LOL how's that going for you?9:18AM
wulfmaster: Weeding out the submissive karens,thanks for playing
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Don't. Fucking. Lie. About. Being. A. Beginner.
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Posted:Sep 12, 2024 9:58 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2024 9:58 pm 4661 Views
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Full stop. There's literally nothing more that needs to be said. But people are gonna people, so I have to say more.
When you withhold, distort, misrepresent, stretch, alter, or in other words LIE, either by commission or omission, about your lack of kink experience, you are being the asshole.
Seriously. I don't care about what insecurities you feel you have, or how much armchair experience you feel you have, how much porn you've watched, how many times you had untrained kinky sex...
Cut and dry. Anyone you play with should understand clearly your background and level of engagement with this activity specifically. And not just in years. You could say I've "been kinky" for nearly 20 years. But keep in mind that a good part of that first decade included no sex, just online pretending, and zero understanding of risk management or fundamentals of the kink people ACTUALLY practice.
I see people lie about this all the time. And it does literally no one any good.
If not years, then what?
These are the outcomes. Here are the risks. Here are the benefits. Here is my experience. Here is my infection prevention and control plan. This is what we'll do if such and such happens. This is how often I do this. This is when I last did this.
Why Disclose?
Frenzy
It happens to most folx, whether it looks like the classic frenzy or it's a little different. But partners should be aware.
Role engulfment
Newer folx especially are more prone to having their kink lifestyle and role spill over into their vanilla life and start taking over. This can be quite risky. Partners should know to be aware of the signs.
Informed consent
If it's not informed, it's not consent.
Ethics
I mean, I can think of no ethical thought experiment ever under any framework where lying about your kink experience level to a partner you wanted to engage with would be acceptable.
Risk budgeting and assessment
Someone may be depending on you and your experience to be able to offset some aspects of risk.They should need to know if they need to cover for a lack of information or experience on your part.
Drop
If you're new, your nervous system may have less tolerance to drop.
Common Courtesy
An (ethical) experienced person playing with a newbie invests a shit ton of time and energy into bridging the gap and covering your lack of experience usually. Acknowledging that and giving them the option of not having to do that labor is just basic decency. It may not be something they want to do. And they have the right to say no.
Bottom Line
Disclose your beginner status. There is no shame in being a beginner. People have a right to be able to consent or not consent to playing with you based on that full understanding. Whether you're Topping or bottoming.
H/T xSolaris
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The dick pic
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Posted:Sep 11, 2024 7:08 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2024 9:58 pm 4316 Views
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If the only thing people have to offer/show me is their genitals - even in an online profile- then I’m just not interested in interacting with them. If their main profile pic is just that- well- then it’s saying a lot. Enough that I hear them loud and clear and don’t want to hear any more. 🙃 It’s disappointing. If people put effort into messaging others, you’d think (!) they’d first put effort into thinking about how others might perceive their profiles (or lack thereof) - but nope.
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Setting expectations
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Posted:Aug 24, 2024 9:42 am
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2024 10:53 am 5684 Views
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If i don’t know you, i’m not using honorifics (Master, Mistress, Sir, etc) to address you. I’m not in a dynamic with you 🤷🏻♀️ i will still be respectful, courteous and kind as long as YOU are. I will not kneel at the feet of anyone but my Beloved. Additionally, calling someone you don't know 'slave', 'girl', 'baby' or 'slut' is not flattering to you. It's assuming and proprietary, and quite frankly makes you look like an ass.
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thedomprofessor
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Posted:Aug 12, 2024 12:18 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2024 9:58 pm 6798 Views
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Don't be THIS GUY, mmkaaaaaaaaaay? What is it about online that makes people act like an ass? Why skirt the question? If you cannot handle SIMPLE QUESTIONS, what's gonna happen when discussions get tough? Why would anyone ever trust someone who cannot understand and answer a simple question? How would this blowhard EVER handle a scene that goes bad, a speed bump in a relationship, or difficult question? Yes, dear reader, these questions are rhetorical. We all know the answer. Oh, and PUNCTUATION, please, good god!
thedomprofessor: Are you a three hole submissive12:36 PM
I am an electrical engineer with a masters degree in computer sciences, and advanced certifications in cyber security.12:37 PM
thedomprofessor: Ahi well I am Anthony, your engineering sounds impressive however the focus will be on training you in proper servitude.12:39 PM
what is your experience and education in your local BDSM community?12:40 PM
thedomprofessor: over 30 years12:40 PM
ok.. and???12:40 PM
thedomprofessor: medical exams confessional sex climax control anal oral hard fucking spankings bondage for starters..12:41 PM
ummmm ok, but what is your experience and education inside your local BDSM community?12:41 PM
hmm??12:44 PM
is that too difficult of a question?12:49 PM
are you there???12:52 PM
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Wannbe doms on ALT
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Posted:Jul 12, 2024 12:16 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2024 2:01 pm 11856 Views
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Like 1EnchantedDom from Houston who send messages like this; 1enchanteddom: Having any luck, cunt WHO THE FUCK RAISED YOU? Is THIS how you put your best foot forward? Name calling, while in the context of a pre-negotiated scene, can be a wonderful experience for all involved. Calling someone you do not know "cunt" is assuming and proprietary, and quite frankly makes you look like an ass. Additionally, you did NOT GET MY CONSENT. Did you REALLY think that dominant men carry themselves like mannerless assclowns? Did you think it was a cool thing to message an owned slave (who's profile is CLEAR they are involved) and humiliate yourself like that? The questions are rhetorical. We all know his lack of self esteem and self respect, his lack of actual experience in BDSM and with women in general are what's at play here. How he carries himself impacts how people view and treat him, but also how any newb he messages views actual Doms in general. This kind of ignorance taints us all as a community, and drives away subs and slaves whose first few encounters include this kind of abhorrent behavior. There are many WONDERFUL and AMAZING Doms out there, and this asshole and his ilk make it even more difficult for the good guys, our beloved and adorable honorable sadists, to get traction.
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Definitions for a "No Limits sub
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Posted:Jul 1, 2024 9:22 am
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2024 7:35 pm 13532 Views
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Courtesy of Spanish Red:
A guaranteed consent violation waiting to happen.
Self-Destruct by Dominant: A super fun hobby until you realise it destroys your dominant, too.
What perfectly rational people become when subfrenzy turns them into tweakers.
An impending criminal charge for senseless dominants.
Instant breakup material.
A person who has limits but is only willing to tell you what they are after you’ve violated them and reduced her to a shivering mess in the corner. If she is reduced to a shivering mess, she may or may not blame you for the wreckage, so go ahead, Frank. Make her day.
A sub who hasn’t considered that some tops like to smother their bottoms in honey, tie them next to termite mounds, and leave them unsupervised all night. Oh, and also murder them because it’s just that kind of day.
Self-directed abuse for abused people who can’t feel any other way. Do you really want to be an abuser, Frank?
A giant stash of incurable guilt for tops who are foolish enough to try this.
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But what you do have to OFFER??
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Posted:Jun 26, 2024 1:57 pm
Last Updated:Jun 30, 2024 3:41 pm 16607 Views
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I see lots of folks wanting a sub or slave, and not really talking about who they are. Mostly talk about what they want, not what they have to offer. For example, if your friends were trying to set you up on a date, what would they say about you? Why would a submissive find you interesting? (and do not think this means you need to write details about your dick) How are you different from any other guy that posts a list of stuff they want to do to a woman? What makes you a wonderful human?
Tell the women you hope to attract about WHO YOU ARE. Do you have a personality? Did you have one once but lost it while on vacation? Do you hate cats? Is it an allergy or their flavor? Do you like camping or foreign films or being foreign at campy films? What makes you unique? What would make you an interesting person to talk to? Why would a woman feel comfortable introducing you to coworkers or family? What do you love about women other than the bits you find sexually gratifying? What areas of personal growth (not moles or ingrown hairs) are you working on? What is your junk food or junk TV Achilles heel?
If you are looking for a partner on the internet instead of your nearest BDSM community, you'd have better luck if your advertisement showed some endeavor. Give those potential partners a glimpse of what they can expect. Women love adorable men, yes you can be both dominant and adorable
Put some effort into it. If you can't be bothered, why should we?
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UGH!!
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Posted:Jun 24, 2024 11:49 am
Last Updated:Jul 23, 2024 9:05 am 19059 Views
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If one more dude bro asks me if there is a lot of sex happening at munches, I might start screaming. Why would sex be happening in the middle of an Applebees, Kyle?
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Dudebro Decoded
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Posted:Jun 13, 2024 7:34 am
Last Updated:Jun 30, 2024 3:40 pm 17909 Views
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25 Things Dudes on Fet Say and the Completely Opposite Things They Actually Mean
Dudebro is its own language here, and it’s not one most of us are super psyched to learn. Before anyone squawks, no, it’s not all dudes, but it is enough dudes that there are some easily recognizable patterns in action and language. Since what the dudebro of Fet means is often very different from what they say, here is a cheat sheet to help you out.
“Why so serious?”
Why are you protesting my gross comment on your picture? Why are you talking about things other than your tits? This is a SeX SiTe.
“You should be fit.”
I only care about what you look like, and I will absolutely judge you if you eat carbs.
“I’m traditional; seeking same.”
I expect you to provide me with all the perks of a 1950s style marriage—cooking, cleaning, and deferring to everything I say. However, I will not provide in the manner of the man in a 1950s style marriage. I expect you to do all of this labour and bring in an income. But don’t make more than me, because I’m threatened by it.
“Feminists need not apply.”
I don’t actually know what feminism is, but I could totally wrestle a bear.
“Critical thinker.”
Elon Musk is my hero and I stan flat Earth. Fox News FTW.
“Looking for casual but you never know (wink)”
I have absolutely no intention of being in a relationship with you, ever.
“Not interested in being a sugar daddy.”
I believe that I am entitled to women’s bodies and time for free and I hold very problematic ideas about sex workers.
“I’m in your city.”
I can’t hire a sex worker because my wife will find out or I’m too cheap to pay for one, so I expect you to entertain me in my hotel room.
“I’m super kinky.”
I’m into blowjobs and anal.
“Going through a separation.”
I might not actually be separated yet. If I am, I want you to be my therapist.
“Not looking for a gold digger.”
I don’t actually have any money, but if I did, I would assume you’re after it because I listen to Andrew Tate.
“Where are the real women?”
Where are the women who are impressed by my willy winky? Isn’t FetLife supposed to be the promised land of empty-headed sluts?
“Looking for a real connection.”
I might be looking for a real connection, but statistics say that I’m probably not.
“I’ve never cum from a blowjob.”
I cum if the breeze blows the right way, but I want you to make this your best blowjob ever because you feel sorry for me.
“You won’t respond anyway.”
You are way out of my league and I know it so I’m using passive aggression to try to elicit a sympathy reply.
“I like feminine/ real/ natural women.”
I believe that women are naturally hairless and effortlessly contoured. If I see you with body hair or no makeup, I will cry.
“Looking for friends with benefits.”
I expect you to be available for me to nut and go, anytime and anywhere, but if you ask me to go for coffee or help you move a couch I will react as though you’ve proposed on the first date. We’re not actually friends, this is just sex.
“No drama.”
Don’t tell me about your problems, ever. Keep your opinions to yourself while you’re at it. It would actually be better if you just don’t have any.
“Where’s the respect/ basic decency?”
I have just sent you an unsolicited dick pic or dumped my fetish on you and you didn’t weep with gratitude and/ or jump on my dick. I am entitled to respect from you but am not prepared to offer you any in return.
“At least reply.”
I believe that I am entitled to your time and energy simply because I presented myself in your inbox.
“You look fun.”
I truly believe that you are here to be my living, breathing sex doll and I have absolutely nothing to offer you in return.
“Back in my day.”
Life was better when PoC, women, and the gays had to suffer in silence and I could do whatever I wanted without anyone calling me on it.
“I can’t say anything anymore.”
I don’t like being called out for being gross, therefore you bitches should just shut up and take it.
“Bitch.”
I believe that women should fit into the box I have allotted them, and if they don’t, they deserve to be punished.
“I eat pussy for hours.”
I have absolutely no idea how to make a woman cum. I think the clit is a city in Nicaragua.
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